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board with me in discovering your passion. I heard a wonderful definition for
passion I wanted to share with you to reflect on throughout this powerful 2007
year.
"Passion is the energy that comes from bringing more of YOU into what you do"
I also wanted you to consider this letter being sent to you by someone that is
very close to you. It is a letter from Our Goals and Dreams.
Keep in mind this is a private note from our hopes and dreams, and it speaks
loudly through our subconscious. I trust it will be powerful enough to get your
attention, and more importantly, compelling enough to get you to take action and
make this coming year the best of your life.
The purpose is to provide an outlet, a voice for all of those hopes, dreams,
desires, and goals that you've neglected. If your goals, hopes, and dreams could
talk, what would they say? Let's hope that they wouldn't write you the following
letter, especially at the end of 2007.
With Men, they refer to Dear John Letters and with us as Women it is referred to
as Dear Sue letters.
Dear ____________________________(add in your own name)
You probably already know what this letter is about. You've seen it coming; I
know you have. It's about us,___________ It's over. I'm leaving you!
I've hung on as long as I could. You've got to give me credit for that. I mean, the
way you swept me off my feet and talked lovingly about the future we would have
together. I have waited so long for your embrace, your attention, and your love.
Why have you neglected me? Why have you made so many excuses? Your
inaction and addiction to procrastination is tearing me apart. I simply must move
on!
For years, I would get so excited every time you talked about the business we
were going to start, the places we were going to visit, and the home on the water
where we could watch the sun set every night. My heart would pitter-patter
every time you talked about me to other people, only to be let down once again
because you were afraid.
Sue, what are you afraid of? It's only me! I am your hopes, dreams, and goals. I
wanted you as much as you wanted me, but you have left me no choice. I simply
must move on!
Please do not attempt to talk your way out of this. The years of indecision and
lack of discipline tell me everything I need to know. If you really--and I mean
REALLY--wanted me, you would have found a way for us to be together.
I am tired of having my hopes soar so high just to just to see them dashed. I
simply must move on! Time is marching by without us, and my greatest fear is
suddenly becoming visible on the horizon. I am so afraid that we could come to
the end of our lifetime and never have the chance to really know one another. It
breaks my heart to even entertain this thought, but I simply must move on!
Like the Genie that grants three wishes, I wanted to give you your heart's desire.
All I wanted, needed, and asked for was your attention, your devotion, and your
willingness to work hard for me. If that was too much to ask for, then I'm sorry. I
simply must move on!
All things of value must be earned, and I've grown tired of your excuses and lack
of patience. On numerous occasions, I was within your grasp, but you quit too
soon. Why did you leave me when you were so close?
I'll let you in on a little secret. Every day I would call out to you, "I am your goal,
here I am, come and get me!" I'm curious. Did you ever hear me? I repeated
this question day after day, month after month, and year after year. But now, I've
grown tired of hearing that the timing is not right, that you're tired, or that
someday you'll get around to it.
It's now time that I get around to it myself and find someone who is committed,
focused, and proactive. I simply must move on!
On behalf of all of your hopes, dreams, and desires, there is something you
should know about us. We will never fail you, nor will we ever let you down.
The main reason why we have not embraced one another is that you have failed
us by not taking action! Why?
Sincerely,
Your Goals
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Granted, we rarely get that kind of feedback when we slack off on our efforts to
achieve. But few of us have never heard that small voice calling to us, "I am your
goal, here I am, come and get me!"
Now's the time to be planning for a powerful 2007 year. If you are hearing that
voice now, it's time to reach out and embrace that goal, those dreams and wild
aspirations before they get away.
Over the next few weeks and months be sure to find some time to reflect on the
past year, give thanks for your blessings, and most importantly plan for the new
year ahead. Remember, life will not go according to plan, if you do not have a
plan.
This coming year presents the ideal time for contemplative thought and careful
planning. Invest time and energy to talk with the most important people in your
life about your goals and dreams for 2007 because the last thing you're going to
want to do is receive your own Dear Sue letter of regrets. Let's visualize massive
success for each other and continue to focus on your dreams and goals
throughout the year and support the goals and dreams of others as they began
to discover their mission.
Let's Have the Most Passionate Year Yet,
Barbie K. Reed
Celebrate Life and Make it a Masterpiece
women and girls!
Lack of communication in the workplace is a problem for some workgroup teams in business
today. Successful teams require effective communication in the workplace among the workers
themselves as well as between managers and staff. Skilled managers who know good
communication skills are necessary for team building. The functioning of any team can be improved
by a combination of effective communication skills provided through training and The Psycho-
Geometrics® System. The title of this dynamic training is called “Understanding Your Team & The
Art of Communicating With Them." This is actually a behavioral profile that helps team members
understand their interactions and improve their communication with their teammates and the
customers / clients they serve on a day to day basis.
As a manager or supervisor, you may feel frustrated and discouraged because:
• Lack of communication within the group
• Effective communication isn't working in your organization
• Your team doesn't function like a cohesive group
• You aren't getting the results you want
• You never have enough time to get everything done
These problems are not insurmountable – they can be solved!
Whether you are managing a team or work group for the first time or the twenty-first time, certain
skills are essential to your effectiveness. Successful managers / supervisors realize that effective
communication in the workplace is a skill they can learn. They understand that team building is a
process that requires leadership. They know how to motivate people to get the best results. They
take appropriate action to manage their time and reduce stress.
You can choose to increase your skills to get better results...
Many supervisors and managers have found that consulting and training with follow-up can get
teams on the right track. Learn how to improve the performance of your team with the help of a
Licensed Consultant in Psycho-Geometrics®. Barbie K. Reed specializes in working with
managers and supervisors who want to develop their skills and those of their team to get better
results.
By working with Barbie K. Reed, you and your team will:
• Develop an appreciation for the strengths they bring to the team
• Enhance communication by using proven techniques
• Achieve better results based on the understanding of each other's personality
Don't tolerate a mediocre team when you can get them to pull together, achieve more, and enjoy
doing it. Contact Barbie K. Reed, Licensed Consultant in Psycho-Geometrics® at
386-767-8086, Fax 386-767-2960 or nurturing4u@bellsouth.net to learn how you can manage
your team to success.
This is a three-part workshop series for women that are in
management or self-employed. Subjects we will be looking at include:
"Breaking the Glass Ceiling"
"Becoming the Leader You Deserve to Be"
"Enhancing Your Assertiveness and Confidence Skills"
To sign up for any of these upcoming workshops or to be on
my email list please take the first step and let me know.
(click here or on the "Contact Barbie" page link above)
Reed’s adversity
the basis for her
teaching, workshops
By CHERYL VASSILIADIS
CORRESPONDENT
“Sincerity.” “High energy.” “Passionate.” “Exceptional determination.” Those are some of the
qualities that others use to describe Barbie K. Reed. But, for Reed, it comes down to one thing:
“I want to give women and girls the secret to be as successful as they have a right to be.”
As Reed describes her life, her reason becomes evident. “Her story resonates because she came
up from adversity,” said Carol Wick, director of the PACE Center for Girls of Volusia-Flagler.
“Because of her struggle,” Wick said, “she is very passionate about getting the girls to a place they
really want to be, so they don’t feel they have to just settle for what they were dealt in life.”
That “adversity” — that “struggle” — come from abandonment in early life by her parents, Reed
said. While searching for an identity, she said, Reed grew into a
woman who took control over her life, and wouldn’t take no for an answer. Those who know Reed
call it “a glow” — one that she can’t keep contained. She said she’s always spreading it around —
to her husband, Ken, and son Barry, to granddaughter Moniqua, and to almost anybody else who
will listen.
Since becoming the first black bank teller in the Daytona Beach area, Reed said she saw a need to
help others by assisting people with financial problems, so she created a budget and counseling
service. The U.S. Small Business Administration recognized her as one of the top 10 women
entrepreneurs of 1989 for that effort.
She and her husband formed B.K.R. Unlimited, which has offered diversity training, team building
and leadership workshops to local and national businesses, governments and organizations —
including Stetson University, EVAC, VOTRAN and the City of Daytona Beach.
Her “Nurturing Seminars for You” sprung from her strong belief in the empowerment of women. “I
know I have found my voice in this venture,” said Reed. “It has become my purpose. . . my passion.
Now I know that this is what I was meant to do. I want to give women and girls the secret to be as
successful as they have a right to be.”
Reed teaches workshops and conducts seminars, retreats, support groups and life coaching
sessions for women of all ages including some specifically for mothers and daughters. Wick, the
director of PACE, has worked on several programs with Reed. “She is extremely high energy,
especially in working with us,” said Wick.
Linda Sullaway remembers experiencing Reed’s “glow” more than 20 years ago, when Reed spoke
to a group of displaced homemakers at the Women’s Center at Daytona Beach Community College.
“I could feel the sincerity in her story,” said Sullaway, whose life had been shattered and who didn’t
know where to turn back then. “She is so genuine and down to earth when she talks about her life
— you just knew she was talking from her heart.”
Reed said it all has to do with one’s state of mind. “We need to change the mindset of our belief
system,” she said, speaking of the negative voices that women — especially teenaged girls — listen
to on a daily basis. They compare themselves to a false sense of perfection that beams into their
lives through television, movies and magazines, Reed said. In order to combat the barrage of
negative feelings, Reed said she seeks to inspire through programs that tout the benefits of positive
affirmations.
In March, she was honored with the 2005 Appreciation Award by the National Association for Self-
Esteem. In presenting the award the association said, “We salute the enterprising spirit of Barbie
Reed, whose outstanding determination, resourcefulness and creativity have contributed to her
entrepreneurial success and applaud her exceptional determination in surmounting life’s challenges
to achieve success.”
Women’s Lifestyle Magazine presented Reed with its Spirit Award for Inspiration at Daytona Beach
Community College last October (2004).
